How to Know When Your Ex is Lying
by Dear DDD

The art of lying - how to detect when your ex is lying to you. via @divorcedrama

Dear DDD,

There is one thing I clearly remember from taking Psychology 101 – how to detect a liar. My EX makes it really easy for me to remember the key factors of what I learned many years ago. The Art of Lying.

Verbal responses to be aware of:

  • Pay close attention to the person’s use of words and their reaction to your question.
  • Repeating your own words.
  • Repeating the question that was asked when answering the question.
  • The use of stalling tactics, using humor and sarcasm to avoid the subject.
  • The question every liar uses: WHAT??

When I took this course, social media didn’t exist. Social media helps us learn everything Psychology 101 was trying to teach us – how to spot a liar. (more…)

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Single Mothers Are Never Good Enough
by Dear DDD

Divorce drama: When your Ex remarries and denounces you as a single mother via @divorcedrama

Dear DDD,

A few months into my EX’s new marriage, my EX told me that he thought it would be best for our children to no longer live with me. My EX felt that our children would benefit in a home with a loving mother and a father. A home with two loving people who expressed their love for each other daily.

My EX expressed concern for our children’s future relationships, and their ability to express love towards others. How would they learn to love if they did not have two parents living together to teach them? The words my EX used: “Living with you will create a dysfunctional atmosphere for our children.” My EX worried our children were not benefiting from living with me because of my status as a “SINGLE MOTHER.” (more…)

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Divorce Attorney Fees Keep Piling Up
by Dear DDD

Divorce attorney fees keep piling up via @divorcedrama

Dear DDD,

I am so frustrated to think that in 2013 I spent over $12,000 on attorney fees for changes to our child support agreements (and other bullshit). That is approximately $1,000 per month taken out of money that could have been spent on, or saved for, my children. (more…)

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Demands from My Ex: I Need 48 Hours Notice
by Dear DDD

Demands from my Ex: I need 48 hours notice via @divorcedrama

Dear DDD,

Late last night, my son informed me that he would need a ride to school so he could arrive 1 hour earlier. He volunteered to help a teacher set up for a school function that was occurring later in the evening. Since my EX drives past his school on his way to work, I asked my son to ask his dad for a ride.

His response: “NO!”

WHY??

“I know what his answer will be: NO.”

I woke up this morning not feeling well, so I texted my EX and asked him to help me out. I rarely ask for help from him but I was hoping, just maybe, he would have some compassion for the way I was feeling. I do admit texting him last-minute was inconsiderate on my part.

My text: Good Morning, just wondering if you can help me out and drive our son to school. Sorry for the last-minute notice, I am feeling like I am coming down with something. (more…)

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I Am Signing You Up For A Dating Website
by Dear DDD

When your son tells you he is signing you up for online dating via @divorcedrama

Dear DDD,

My son asked me to drive him to a friend’s house this afternoon. I told him I would take him in 15 minutes because I was on a phone call. He stood right in front of me, insisting that I take him, not caring that I was speaking to someone.  After 10 minutes of dirty looks, hand gestures and nagging, I got off of my call and jumped into the car to take him. I was really pissed that, until he got his way, he would not let up.

As we were driving, he said to me, “I’m signing you up for a dating website. You’re really angry and you need to have a man in your life.” (more…)

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