by Dear DDD
Dear Madame Divorce-
My soon to be ex husband is living with another woman. Every year he depended on me to organize his Christmas Cards for his company. Yesterday, he called me and wanted to know if I had ordered his card. I don’t want to piss him off but I don’t think I should have to do this. What should I do?
I am sorry you have such an obnoxious knuckle head soon to be EX. It is no longer your responsibility to help him with his company Christmas Cards. Learning to say NO can be difficult, it will get easier in time. This is what I would say to him.
“As much as I would love to help you organize your Christmas Cards, the answer is NO. Christmas cards are not included in the divorce package that you signed up for. I am sure (name of woman he is living with) would love to help you.”
I am sure he knows that he can’t count on the woman he is living with to do this, nor does she want to.
Another response: “In the past I have purchased your Christmas Cards from…I will text you their number.”
I hope this helps,