The Month Of New Beginnings
by Dear DDD

Dear DDD,

I have to tell you, I hate the month of January.

January: the first month of a new year, named after Janus, the God of beginnings and transitions. Also, January comes from the Latin word for door, since January is the door to the year.
In my eyes, January is the month of let downs, stress and planning – and it’s the month when a heavy door slams hard in my face.

I find myself very lonely in the month of January. After the excitement of the holidays, the hustle and bustle of shopping, wrapping presents, and holiday parties, the month of new beginnings opens a door to disappointments. Everyone is wiped out from the fun month of December, which brings an eerie social silence to the month of new beginnings. It’s as if my friends have been swooped up from an alien invasion, leaving their cell phones and myself behind.

My new beginning is welcomed by a maxed out credit card bill from spending way over my budget on holiday shopping. My January comes with stress to plan a new year’s budget to help pay for all of the stuff I just purchased – the thoughtfully planned gifts to keep everyone happy and to make Christmas a memorable event.

The excitement of my new beginnings, and strong will to stick to my New Year’s Resolutions, are fading quickly. I find myself in a vicious cycle to hold strong, keeping my head slightly above water and trying not to let my actions of over spending and past stupidity bring me down. Unfortunately, stress takes over and now I am struggling against giving in to old habits from the year past; stressful eating, constant money worries, keeping the kids on their paths, decisions about my future and the biggest thorn of all… dealing with my miserable EX.

The miserable thorn that just won’t go away.

Okay, January. You want new beginnings? This year I will be stronger than ever. I am determined not to let the door of new beginnings slam so forcefully in my face. It is me and my strength alone pushing forward with all my power that will keep the door even slightly ajar for change and a new beginning that I so deserve.

Share on FacebookTweet about this on Twitter
A Photo Competition With My Ex
by Dear DDD

A Photo Competition with my Ex via @divorcedrama

Dear DDD,

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but a picture of your children is priceless. Today, having a cell phone with a camera makes picture-taking, and sharing photos, easier than ever. At any given moment, I am ready; a snap here, a snap there, “Smile,” “Say Cheese,” and I can capture that special moment. My EX and I don’t often see eye to eye, and communication is usually a nightmare, but sharing photos with each other is where we excel in the co-parenting department. We are actually courteous to each other when we are sharing photos of our children. Sharing our photos gives each of us the ability to hold onto the memory of a vacation, special event or a time when our kids were just being silly. For years our photo communication has been great but recently our picture sharing has taken a turn for the worse. (more…)

Share on FacebookTweet about this on Twitter
Donald Sterling Divorce Drama
by Dear DDD

 How Donald Sterling's Adultery Puts Cheating on Full Display via @divorcedramaDear DDD,

All the talk today was about the Los Angeles Clippers owner Donald Sterling. I hope everyone agrees that the guy is a racist pig. To add to that degrading title, he is also a cheating liar.

I’m wondering: why isn’t anyone giving the mistress a hard time? She knew this rich and powerful mogul was married, but this did not deter her from starting a relationship with him. When are we going to stand up to the pretty little mistresses that destroy families?  This little princess is sitting back laughing at the controversy that she caused but she should also be brought down by women who have been lied to, cheated on and hurt by women like her. (more…)

Share on FacebookTweet about this on Twitter
How to Stay Positive Despite Negativity From Your Ex
by Dear DDD

How to Stay Positive Despite Negativity From Your Ex via @divorcedramaDear DDD,

My EX loves to get a rise out of me with his nasty comments. I never fail to expect one of these remarks on a Monday to start my week with negativity and anguish. Not today!! You will not bring me down.

I have been the one filling out school forms, making decisions for tutors and doctors, and all other daily decisions for our children. Never a thank you for not bothering him with this stuff, but only criticism towards me and my choices I make. My EX loves to feel important and thinks he is the smartest and the greatest – he truly gets a rise out of criticizing and putting me down.  In the past he knew exactly how to get my blood boiling, always getting a rise out of me by driving me crazy and, like a complete idiot, I let him do this to me. I would get so worked up that I would turn into a complete mess for the rest of the day. (more…)

Share on FacebookTweet about this on Twitter
All I Want Is One Day Of Not Being The Ex
by Dear DDD

All I want is one day of not being the "ex." #divorce via @divorcedrama

Dear DDD,

Today I had my dreaded annual visit to my gynecologist. There is nothing worse than someone poking, scraping, prying and looking deep into the area that sometimes you forget is there. Every year the embarrassing question, “So, are you having sex?” Why don’t you tell me, Doc? This year was the worst of all. Before I even got into the examining room I felt like my uterus fell to the floor.

I showed up for my 2:00 pm appointment, signed in, and sat down next to many young bursting bellies of moms-to-be. One by one, every belly was being crossed off of the list to be seen while I waited. The next round of woman came in, signed in and were called.  Okay, it’s over an hour that I’ve been here and still nothing. I have been seeing my gynecologist for 15 years, the receptionist knows me well, but today she was not there to greet me. (more…)

Share on FacebookTweet about this on Twitter